ONE man at a time…

I am not in good mood today. The day started off fine, but halfway through the morning I received a particularly unsettling email that maybe if it arrived on any other day it would have been fine. Unfortunately, today I am ready to pick up the phone and call to give them a piece of my mind. I tell you some people just don’t have any email training or etiquette. Okay, that is not the focus of this post, stay focused. I decided in 2008 to take a different approach to finding a suitable companion. I found that my former style was causing unnecessary stress on my part and apparently confusion for the other parties. I am now attempting to date ONE man at a time. When I just typed that, I realized that I am practicing self imposed repression, how stifling. I think it’s ridiculous. It reads crazy. I am a single lady in her prime, the roaring 20’s. Although it reads funny, once I make my mind up to do something I do it. I am committed to trying it out to see what type of benefits might come out of it. Why am I doing this? I heard from more than one forlorn young man the dissatisfaction of knowing that I was dating others. Surprisingly, guys do not like it when you are honest with them about the fact you are dating others. So I am attempting to date ONE man at a time in an attempt to allow more focus on each individual, so that we can have more meaningful interactions. I also have a very short fuse when it comes to ridiculousness, some might call them minor problems, but when there are multiple options one can be quickly dismissed. No w I will deal with minor problem as they come instead of deciding that I don’t have time for it. However, most importantly for me I can quickly determine if someone is truly worth my time. To this point, since I am having a rather unsettling day I decide to reach out to the ONE guy I am focusing on in hopes that we might be able to see each other this evening. Yes, this is a stretch. To call someone the day of during these hectic, overly scheduled times is unlikely to produce the desired results. However, I think hey he might be available. I wanted to see him because he is always happy and enthusiastic. I could really use his positive vibe right now, and it’s contagious. So when he declined I was not totally surprised, but what I was not ready for was his next statement.

“I don’t believe I’m going to be able to make it on Saturday.” Now Saturday we have a scheduled date, actually it has been on the books for over two weeks now.Now I am thinking hold up, but I respond calmly.“Oh did something come up?”

“I feel today that things will be hectic on Saturday.”

“Oh really, what’s going on?”

“Well things are pretty hectic today and I am not sure about Saturday”

“So you think what’s going on today might carry over into Saturday?” Cause I’m thinking dude, it’s Tuesday. “Are you sure?”

“No, things are just hectic today.”

“So what exactly is going on to make things so hectic? Do you need any help?”

“It’s just hectic, but I will drop the tickets off for the show on Saturday because I know you wanted to go.”

“Okay, oh that’s nice of you.”

“I will drop them off this evening.”

“Ok, well call me later and just keep me posted on Saturday.”


Now I am like okay this hectic business sounds like some mess. I don’t want to pry, but come on. He just kept saying things are hectic. Why can’t he explain what is so hectic? I don’t want to badger, but can I get a point of clarification? However, since I have just ONE man now I am going to go along with it, that is for now. Hmmm, but now I am a little irritated because I don’t get to see him today and since things are SO hectic I probably won’t see him on Saturday either. So why again did I agree to focus on ONE man at a time? Right about now this new dating style is not working for me. When there is more than one man in rotation, there is more than one possibility. Now I feel that I failed to plan properly. Everyone knows that the failure to plan is a plan to fail and now I have to deal with not having a plan B, C or D.


It’s Saturday now and it’s official. Things are still hectic and he isn’t going to the show. Fine with me cause I get to go and take who ever I want : ).